Books (and Reflections) on Discipline
Like politics, discipline can create heated debates, especially when we discuss spanking as a form of discipline Most are passionate either for or against it. Both justify and defend their position.
As for my opinion, I always come back to the definition of respect. In all my actions towards a child I strive to show kindness, consideration, gentleness and admiration as well as honor, appreciation, patience and gratitude with caring, grace and and love. In all we do as parents and caregivers, we should ask ourselves, “Does this action show respect to the child?”.
I think your behavior should match the discipline needs of your child. Each child is unique and the approach you take should be unique to your child. There are many books written about discipline. Like all other aspects of raising a child, you should do your research to make an informed decision about what types of discipline will be best for your child.
The following are two excellent publications on the subject, and where I recommend you start your reading:
Attached at the Heart: 8 Proven Parenting Principles for Raising Connected and Compassionate Children, by Barbara Nicholson
Attached at the Heart: offers evidence-based parenting advice for raising more compassionate children. This is a must read for parents-to-be, parents, grandparents, and anyone who cares for children. It shows you not only how to build a better relationship with a child, but why that is so important for him and his future.
The Discipline Book: How to Have a Better-Behaved Child From Birth to Age Ten, by Dr. William Sears and Martha Sears, R.N.
The Discipline Book has everything you need to know about discipline to raise a happy, well-adjusted, well-behaved child.
Disciplining children means equipping them with the tools to succeed in life. In this guide, Dr. Bill and Martha Sears, explain what you can do to shape your child’s behavior so that good conduct comes naturally. With a focus not just on managing behavior problems but also on preventing them, it offers clear, practical advice on a broad range of disciplinary issues that will make discipline easier in years to come. The Discipline Book will make you confident in your ability to correct undesirable behavior, promote good behavior, and will help you instill values that will help your child become morally literate.